Her life was Arsenal. She never married, nor did she have any kids. Her family was the club itself, although that wasn’t always easy. In a story for Mundial magazine, when referencing the misogyny she experienced at men’s games, she wrote: “I’d hear people say, ‘Oh shut up! Get back to the kitchen! Does your husband know you’re here?’ And I would just chant back at them, ‘You’ll never keep me quiet!’ and everybody would laugh. So I turned it around on them.”
Petri’s relationship with the club’s players was also special. She was a regular at U23 games and youth games, there to support Arsenal in all its forms. Petri spoke multiple languages — her day job was as a language teacher in a north London high school — so she made an effort to speak to players in their native languages. By the time players reached the first team, they’d be on first-name terms with Petri.
Jordan Nobbs, who has played at Arsenal for over a decade, recalled a time when Petri rolled her ankle outside the team bus: The players helped her on board and drove her back from the game with them so she could get immediate treatment from the club’s medical staff. She sang songs the whole journey back.
In the early years, she would sometimes ride back with Akers and his squad, something that continued with European away days, too.
“If she was staying at the hotel we were, then we would try and look after her,” Akers says. “Sometimes she was on our flight as well, and the girls enjoyed talking to her.” There was also a time when her flight back from a preseason tour in Asia was cancelled, so she was invited to jump on the club charter flight with team executives.
As Petri got older, she had a support system of Arsenal fans who’d help her buy tickets for matches and arrange her travel to games. Marcia Milnes met Petri over a decade ago and quickly became akin to a personal assistant, sorting tickets, accompanying her to games and getting her food at the stadium. “It would take about half an hour [to reach her seat at a game] because everyone would come up to her,” she says. “They would either just want to chat to her, or someone would say, “Oh, God, Maria, I met you 10 years ago.
“She used to say Arsenal was like her family, and it made her feel special that everybody had this love for her and wanted to speak to her and hear her stories.”
Forever in our hearts ❤️ pic.twitter.com/spPp3s2z1Y
— Arsenal (@Arsenal) July 23, 2022
Just as Petri always stuck by the club when they needed her, Arsenal seemed to rally around her. A few years ago, Petri spent a few nights in hospital and two members of the coaching staff paid her a visit. During the first coronavirus-enforced lockdown, the club sent former midfield legend Ray Parlour (339 appearances from 1992-2004) round to Petri’s small north London house with a present: The FA Cup. The club also arranged a special permit for her taxi driver, Paul, that would allow him to drive under the Emirates and into a bay directly next to an elevator, where club staff would help her get to her seat.
When she died, the tributes were instant and plentiful: The club sent a tribute followed by several players — including England defender Leah Williamson, Arsenal midfielder Jordan Nobbs and former Arsenal/England striker Ian Wright — as well as thousands of fans. Within hours, her name was trending on Twitter. FIFA even paid tribute, while the Arsenal club shop represented her prominently in a display. Mikel Arteta, speaking at a news conference that evening, described her as an “integral” part of the club’s support.
“The way she transmitted Arsenal values and the feeling of this football club was something I have never seen before. She was everywhere, every single week and she will be missed. Big time,” he said.
“Football is for the fans. It can be the greatest game in the world but if there are no people to watch it, it becomes nothing.”
Tonight, Arsenal players past and present, as well as fans, are mourning the loss of a unique, much loved member of their family. Rest in Peace Maria. https://t.co/dlhpHwlL3F
— FIFA.com (@FIFAcom) July 22, 2022
Arsenal went even further: “Rarely can it be said that ‘games just won’t be the same’ without a supporter, but Maria’s presence… will truly leave a void on matchdays at Emirates Stadium, Meadow Park [Borehamwood] and at away matches wherever we are playing.”
The news of her death came as a shock even to those closest to her. When Petri’s friend Milnes received a call on that Friday afternoon in July she was heartbroken. Just that morning she’d been on the phone with the club to arrange her season ticket for the 2022-23 WSL season.
Petri’s funeral took place in north London on Aug. 30. The doors of the church were red and white, while many of her closest friends wore Arsenal shirts to the service. A number of staff at Arsenal attended too, including Arsenal women’s captain Kim Little — one of Petri’s favourite players — and Arsenal chief executive Vinai Venkatesham.
With their season opener with Manchester City postponed, Arsenal will kick off the campaign against Brighton at Borehamwood. It will be the first home game without Petri. Tributes have been planned, while Petri’s face will adorn the game’s official programme.
It was a time she told others would one day come, although she prayed for one reason only that it never would. She would say: “I shall be oh so upset when I die, because I won’t be able to watch Arsenal anymore.”
